More thoughts on normality
Hi guys, sorry I’ve been a bit quiet of late, I just haven’t felt like writing lately, but all is well and I’ve had a pretty good couple of weeks. Anyway, I just wanted to add a few more thoughts (from others) on normality, following from my post ‘There’s nothing good about normal!‘ a few weeks back.
First of all, Carissa just added a new comment and seeing as though most people don’t often go back and read comments from old threads I thought it deserved greater prominence. She wrote:
“Was re-reading this entry and I thought of some additional things that are now seen as “normal” in our society but which aren’t.
It’s now normal to root for people to fail and fall on their butts, and to see people as competition, versus cheering for people to succeed and being happy for them. There are several reasons for this I think - so many people’s lives are unhappy and unfulfilling (which in itself is a point that I’ll get back to) that they can’t stand to see people achieving something good and being happy when they aren’t. They want to tear them down to their own level. So watching somebody fail or screw up or fall on their butt (figuratively speaking) becomes fun in an evil gleeful way. (hence, the *tabloid culture,* which specializes in that. Tear people down for the paparazzi pics capturing them with celulite on their thighs, no makeup, wrinkles, or an outfit that’s not deemed “haute couture” enough. Look on in giddy glee when their relationships fall apart, look for the drugs, sex and cheating scandals after they’ve died so even in death they can be raked over the coals.) This is now considered normal. Which leads to how celeb-obsessed entertainment is now considered normal. Following the minutae of celebs’ lives because people’s own lives are boring and pointless.
The jealousy/competition thing is an extreme manifestation of separation. Instead of viewing ourselves as related pieces of a greater whole, they mistakenly think we’re all cut off from each other and completely separate…and thus, competition to be jealous of. So it’s now considered normal to be separate, competitive, jealous, gossipy and mean spirited. Not everybody is like that, but in certain regions (urban centers in particular) that attitude is prevailant. We have movies and TV shows that celebrate this attitude, with backbiting and cat fights and scheming and plotting and jealousies galore, trying to tell people, “This is how you should be. This is the new normal. Strive for this. Emulate this.”
And as just mentioned, it’s now considered normal to have an unfulfilling, mundane and possibly unhappy life. You mentioned how it’s considered normal to hang with one’s friends being superficial and mundane (I definitely agree!) and this extends to one’s entire life in general. I look around at people and I can’t believe the lives and jobs that most people have locked themselves into! o_0 Like, who would WANT to do that……for years on end?!?!?! Is that what they imagined for themselves as a kid??! Who grows up saying “I want to be an accounting clerk who’s always irritated and frustrated obsessing over getting the numbers to balance!” Nobody. Or, “I want to be a stressed out executive assistant to a boss I don’t like, being run ragged every day!” Nobody. Or, “I want to become a corporate guy working for donor relations and attend endless mindless meetings where it’s all about ‘How can I get more money for the university?’ !” Nobody. Jobs with no life to them, no variety, no real point, *working for that which is illusory,* so that one can insure that they can keep paying the bills every month. To me it’s a life not worth having. Work should ideally be about producing something tangible……….not working for illusory concepts. (I once wrote in one of my articles: “Banks, loans, credit cards, debt counseling and consolidation, taxes, personal investment, mortgages, car/home/boat/personal insurance, law firms, home owners associations — what I’ve found is that the number of useless, illusory industries is skyrocketing, while jobs that create an actual tangible product and serve a useful purpose are on the decline. [...] What good is it going to do anybody to be a financial investor, lawyer, paralegal, mortgage underwriter, IRS agent, insurance salesperson, credit card telemarketer or property manager enforcing rules for the Association about mowing your lawn and power washing your driveway when/if things finally really hit the fan? These people will kind of be up the creek, to put it lightly. Their jobs and industries are completely useless in every sense of the word. So since illusion is what now dominates your job market choices, it’s all the more reason to find a way out, ASAP.”
Illusory concepts is now considered the norm, instead of making or doing something tangible and meaningful.
I work with people who’ve been doing the same lifeless, pointless job for 20, 25, 30 years. I can’t even IMAGINE. The worse part is when I encounter coworkers who hate their jobs and complain and gripe and moan and groan….and then what happens when I nonchalantly suggest to them that they quit. Their faces get a wide eyed, surprised look, like, “huh?!” You can see them running into a wall with the idea. It never occurrred to them to leave. They think I’m weird for suggesting such a thing. You don’t…..quit your job! They think it’s normal that you hate your job and complain and be miserable for years and years on end!
I can think of many more so-called normal ways of being in the modern western world that are anything but normal, but I’ll stop here! :D ’Cause
I could go on all day, seriously…..”
Great stuff Carissa, I agree entirely!
Also, about a week after I made the original post, I discovered Paulo Coelho also looked at the subject of normality on his blog. Given that I’m connected with him through Facebook and that he might have seen my blog post in his newsfeed I wondered if he was influenced by my post, but then I noticed he posted it in January so he was first.
You can see Paulo’s blog post here: Inventory of normality



















